On the busy social life of a 6 year old

One of the things that no one tells you when you start having kids is that they start to develop a busy social life about the age of three and somewhere around 5-6 the pace of that social life really takes off. I’m not talking about things like soccer, teeball or swimming lessons, those are things that we volunteered for. I’m talking about birthday parties.

Now you might think that since everyone more or less has only one birthday a year such birthday parties would be relatively rare. Certainly that’s what *I* thought until a year or two ago. What I failed to take into account is that if your child has , say, 6 friends, that’s 7 birthdays each year. Now if you have 2 or more kids, you’re looking at 7 birthday parties EACH every year. And once they start going to preschool and elementary school it’s common for a child to invite a significant percentage of the kids in their class to their party. And before you can say “pinch to grow and inch” you’ve got 30-40 birthday parties to attend every year and the last time I checked there are only 52 weeks in the year. That’s right, a birthday party nearly every weekend.

I mention this because this weekend is my oldest daughter’s birthday party, in celebration of her turning 5. This weekend actually isn’t her birthday but it’s pretty close and next weekend is the Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Festival and you’d be a fool to try to do anything that competed with Pumpkin Fest.

In addition to the party that we’re hosting our oldest son has a Superman-themed birthday party on Saturday. Last week we were at a Princess-Ladybug-Superhero-Pirate party. I think I’m going to start boycotting birthdays. (big sigh) Don’t get me started on all the playdates.

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3 Comments on “On the busy social life of a 6 year old”

  1. Mike Says:

    Ahh…the joy of twins and shared friends and classes. But you are right that 3 is when the social life kicks in. We just astarted becoming a popular house in the neighborhood and hardly any night goes by without the doorbell ringing and some kid up to first grade age asking if our kids can come out to play. We haven’t had to do birthday parties yet, but don’t forget about their cousins. That’s 2 more birthdays for us each year so far.

  2. tpmcgee Says:

    I’m not sure if you’d call it luck or not but we don’t have to worry about birthdays for cousins. Although my kids have 14 cousins none of them live closer than a 14 hour drive away. So we duck out of that share of parties.

  3. Mary Lynne Says:

    so good to know others feel as I do! I love the idea of celebrating life! and birthdays are a perfect time for it! but does that mean it has to be the American way of a theme w/ a matching cake, hats, napkins, plates, goodie bags…etc and of course my kids getting more toys to sit in their room alongside all their others. isn’t there something missing here? my son’s 4 yr bday is saturday. his best little friend’s bday is a couple days later and his mom has decided to have his party that day. so what do i do? I’m hoping to find some great solution where my son feels completely loved on his special day, but not through a big party. 🙂 maybe our family, grandparents, great grandparents and a really cool cake! ? !

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